From Pain (Suicidal) To Self Love
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and problems and difficulties in life are what help us to grow and become stronger people. There is absolutely nothing worth taking a life over, especially another man or women. If someone has that effect on you, you don’t need them in your life to begin with. Just suck it up, walk away, and start taking care of YOU and being the best YOU you can be!
I personally have been in that situation. I felt like dying because of a breakup. I still remember the gut-wrenching, I-want to-crawl-in-a-hole-and-die pain! At times it was almost paralyzing. It wasn’t until some time had passed and I was able to take a step back, that I began to see more clearly how I played a huge part in the breakup. Why? Because when I took a good hard look at myself I saw someone who was not taking care of themselves the way they should have been.
Self-love, was definitely lacking in my life at the time. And self inflicted harm does not qualify as self love! Through the haze of pain it was hard to see anything lovable about myself. But, I knew that if I was ever going to have a healthy relationship, I had to learn to love myself. If I remained unhealthy then I would continue to draw unhealthy people into my life. What I needed to do was to become stronger and more self-assured, because a strong person is much more attractive than a weak person. So it must begin with me, or I have nothing to bring to a new relationship.
Love yourself, be true to yourself, and make your well being a priority. Work on yourself spiritually, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Set goals and always follow through. Make up positive affirmations about yourself. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people. Do something nice for yourself. Do something nice for someone else. The list goes on and on. There are so many ways to learn how to love and be happy with yourself, and it’s key to having a healthy relationship.
After all, how can we accept someone else if we can’t even accept ourselves? How can we expect others to love us if we can’t even love ourselves? Self-love and self-acceptance are important first steps in developing a happy, loving relationship.
Remember, love begins inside, and that only when you reach self-acceptance and self-love, can you truly share it with another.